This article: “Oregon Governor starts week on food stamps” caught my attention. He is bringing to light how impossible it is to live on food stamps. As someone who had to attempt that back when my son was born 18 years ago…I know that it’s a subject that needed brought into the public line of vision. If you want to keep people who really just need a bit of help and a boost to get back on their feet a reason to give up on life…put them on foodstamps. It’s humiliating, it’s impossible, and it’s not enough to keep your children healthy. Bravo to Ted Kulongoski for making an effort to get this changed.
And now, I have to run back to work. I just popped in to share this. And to make some behind the scenes changes to the blog. :-)
See you later.
:)
Thursday, April 26, 2007
Saturday, April 21, 2007
Start getting positive
I was at a friends house the other day, along with my mom, and we were discussing the law of attraction. We’ve all been doing our own little experiments the last few weeks and we were discussing outcomes. It’s extremely interesting how a simple shift in my attitude has made things that were such a big deal seem to have disappeared. AND the most interesting thing is how many new opportunities and jobs have ‘appeared’ since I changed my attitude.
I am also shifting my attitude about having money. I think maybe I had some sort of negative connection to having money…or to ME making money. Not sure why though. There are tons of possible reasons, most likely it’s the ‘you aren’t even worthy enough to make noise’ attitude that I got during my entire childhood. While I attempt to change my opinion and the emotions that go with it, I’ll see if I can’t figure out why (to help it make sense if possible?) and squash it from that end as well. Sometimes, I think, when we find a source of our behavior that comes from our childhood, and we take a look from the adult point of view…it causes the effects of it to disappear into a puff of smoke.
Example: As a child, an adult you trust is passionately negative about a politician. You grow up hearing how they are just the most horrible person on earth. Then one day, decades later, you are compared to that person by someone who adored the same politician. Now…most likely you are going to take that comment and have a negative reaction (at least internally) to it. Probably, you will take it as an insult and get angry. But WHY did you get angry? The person did not mean it as an insult, it was quite the opposite. You got angry because of a trigger that was planted years before. You reacted to something the way you were trained to react. Now, as an adult…you rationally think about the fact that you honestly know nothing about this politician…and that the comment made was, in fact, positive. Then you think about it from an adult point of view, and realize your trusted adult was reacting in a childishly negative way. Now the idea of someone comparing you to that person is no longer offensive. And if you do get twinges of that same negative reaction, you can tell yourself that it’s ridiculous and keep moving on. It no longer has the same power.
I don’t think we should dwell on crap that happened in our past that makes us act irrationally. I do think we should examine our irrational behaviors and try to figure out what we are getting out of it (No matter how good or bad it is, if we weren’t getting something out of it, we wouldn’t be doing it.) even if it’s just that we are getting to be content with something familiar. Sometimes reviewing incidents in our past help us to eliminate some behaviors and sometimes it might be a waste of time. I opt for making a bit of effort to fix a destructive behavior.
And…where was I going with this?? I think I’m doing too much at once. I’m in two client meetings and trying to write this. Can you say “self-destruction”? LOL Yes, I am very much a self-destructive person when it comes to success. The minute I start to do really well I kill it. I quit working, I get preoccupied with non-work things…I do things that just cause problems with the work I am supposed to be doing. But…I’m on to me now! And I better watch out…cause I’m watching. Me. Hmm…why do I feel like Jack Sparrow now? I’m making no bloody sense at all! Except I am. To me anyway.
Oookay. Gonna go work so I can get to bed at a reasonable hour (anytime before 4 is reasonable to me). Later all!
:)
I am also shifting my attitude about having money. I think maybe I had some sort of negative connection to having money…or to ME making money. Not sure why though. There are tons of possible reasons, most likely it’s the ‘you aren’t even worthy enough to make noise’ attitude that I got during my entire childhood. While I attempt to change my opinion and the emotions that go with it, I’ll see if I can’t figure out why (to help it make sense if possible?) and squash it from that end as well. Sometimes, I think, when we find a source of our behavior that comes from our childhood, and we take a look from the adult point of view…it causes the effects of it to disappear into a puff of smoke.
Example: As a child, an adult you trust is passionately negative about a politician. You grow up hearing how they are just the most horrible person on earth. Then one day, decades later, you are compared to that person by someone who adored the same politician. Now…most likely you are going to take that comment and have a negative reaction (at least internally) to it. Probably, you will take it as an insult and get angry. But WHY did you get angry? The person did not mean it as an insult, it was quite the opposite. You got angry because of a trigger that was planted years before. You reacted to something the way you were trained to react. Now, as an adult…you rationally think about the fact that you honestly know nothing about this politician…and that the comment made was, in fact, positive. Then you think about it from an adult point of view, and realize your trusted adult was reacting in a childishly negative way. Now the idea of someone comparing you to that person is no longer offensive. And if you do get twinges of that same negative reaction, you can tell yourself that it’s ridiculous and keep moving on. It no longer has the same power.
I don’t think we should dwell on crap that happened in our past that makes us act irrationally. I do think we should examine our irrational behaviors and try to figure out what we are getting out of it (No matter how good or bad it is, if we weren’t getting something out of it, we wouldn’t be doing it.) even if it’s just that we are getting to be content with something familiar. Sometimes reviewing incidents in our past help us to eliminate some behaviors and sometimes it might be a waste of time. I opt for making a bit of effort to fix a destructive behavior.
And…where was I going with this?? I think I’m doing too much at once. I’m in two client meetings and trying to write this. Can you say “self-destruction”? LOL Yes, I am very much a self-destructive person when it comes to success. The minute I start to do really well I kill it. I quit working, I get preoccupied with non-work things…I do things that just cause problems with the work I am supposed to be doing. But…I’m on to me now! And I better watch out…cause I’m watching. Me. Hmm…why do I feel like Jack Sparrow now? I’m making no bloody sense at all! Except I am. To me anyway.
Oookay. Gonna go work so I can get to bed at a reasonable hour (anytime before 4 is reasonable to me). Later all!
:)
Thursday, April 19, 2007
My kids are so cool
I just thought I’d announce that to the world. :-)
We have a ballet recital this weekend. I am thinking of making it a really big deal to make my oldest daughter really happy about all the work she put into this. Maybe this will give her some positive association with hard work and help her in the future.
I also had a “What would the Bratz do?” conversation yesterday. LOL The girls are having issues with making the decision to join the gymnastics team. Their instructor asked them to try out. The oldest one is just busting at the seams about it and wants to join so bad she can’t contain herself, but won’t do it if the younger one doesn’t. The youngest looks like she wants to do it, but keeps saying she doesn’t want to. She told my mom her reason was that she was afraid she’d fall in front of everyone.
I don’t want her to not do something she loves and regret it. I don’t want to push her to do something she’s not ready to do. It really sucks to watch her struggle with it, too. I think she’s really just scared and that she’d love it if she went to do it.
They were pretending to be one Bratz doll or the other last night so I got the brilliant idea…”Hey! What would the Bratz do if they had to decide to join the gymnastics team or not?” The answer was “They’d do it in a heartbeat!” And then the talk turned to nothing but gymnastics WHILE they did kartwheels and somersaults in their room. They are just constantly doing tumbles, flips…I have to threaten them to get them to stop doing it on the ceramic tile floor. I mean, they’d kartwheel across the house to come to dinner still if I let them. I’m not trying to push an awkward kid who sort of thinks she likes to tumble into joining a gymnastics team. I’m trying to help a kid not regret a decision made based on unrealistic fears. And their instructor thinks they are both extremely talented (well, so do I, but I’m their mom…I’m supposed to think that! LOL ) and she’s gone out of her way to make sure I know she thinks they should both try out next month.
Ok, I’m going to let her think on it a few more days, and then bring it up subtly again. Maybe she will make up her own mind if she thinks I’m not pressuring her for an answer. She can always quit if it’s too hard. BUT she can’t join again unless someone quits…which could be next year. We are talking potential for lots of resentment towards her sister if she doesn’t join and then finds out how much she would have loved it and then CAN’T join for a year. It would be her own fault, but still…kids minds don’t always behave rationally. I just want to make sure she’s aware of the possibilities and can make an informed decision she won’t regret.
Alright, I’m off to get some work done now. See ya’ll tomorrow.
Nite
We have a ballet recital this weekend. I am thinking of making it a really big deal to make my oldest daughter really happy about all the work she put into this. Maybe this will give her some positive association with hard work and help her in the future.
I also had a “What would the Bratz do?” conversation yesterday. LOL The girls are having issues with making the decision to join the gymnastics team. Their instructor asked them to try out. The oldest one is just busting at the seams about it and wants to join so bad she can’t contain herself, but won’t do it if the younger one doesn’t. The youngest looks like she wants to do it, but keeps saying she doesn’t want to. She told my mom her reason was that she was afraid she’d fall in front of everyone.
I don’t want her to not do something she loves and regret it. I don’t want to push her to do something she’s not ready to do. It really sucks to watch her struggle with it, too. I think she’s really just scared and that she’d love it if she went to do it.
They were pretending to be one Bratz doll or the other last night so I got the brilliant idea…”Hey! What would the Bratz do if they had to decide to join the gymnastics team or not?” The answer was “They’d do it in a heartbeat!” And then the talk turned to nothing but gymnastics WHILE they did kartwheels and somersaults in their room. They are just constantly doing tumbles, flips…I have to threaten them to get them to stop doing it on the ceramic tile floor. I mean, they’d kartwheel across the house to come to dinner still if I let them. I’m not trying to push an awkward kid who sort of thinks she likes to tumble into joining a gymnastics team. I’m trying to help a kid not regret a decision made based on unrealistic fears. And their instructor thinks they are both extremely talented (well, so do I, but I’m their mom…I’m supposed to think that! LOL ) and she’s gone out of her way to make sure I know she thinks they should both try out next month.
Ok, I’m going to let her think on it a few more days, and then bring it up subtly again. Maybe she will make up her own mind if she thinks I’m not pressuring her for an answer. She can always quit if it’s too hard. BUT she can’t join again unless someone quits…which could be next year. We are talking potential for lots of resentment towards her sister if she doesn’t join and then finds out how much she would have loved it and then CAN’T join for a year. It would be her own fault, but still…kids minds don’t always behave rationally. I just want to make sure she’s aware of the possibilities and can make an informed decision she won’t regret.
Alright, I’m off to get some work done now. See ya’ll tomorrow.
Nite
I couldn’t find anything positive to say…
so I just kept my mouth shut.
I have gotten tired of listening to myself bitch. I’d have told me to shit or get off the pot a long time ago. I have a really sore neck today too so I’m a touch on the crabby side.
I have been working a lot lately, and the blog suffers from it. I have to build a new blog schedule, as I do have a few others I contribute to for work. I feel like I’m writing all day long sometimes.
I just wanted to pop in and announce that I’m still alive. I have to go bother Meg as well. I never did figure out how to get to Solaris’ blog and I would love to see what is going on with her now that her HusbandsWhore (yes all one word) can’t come in and harrass her.
I will attempt to get back in here today.
:)
I have gotten tired of listening to myself bitch. I’d have told me to shit or get off the pot a long time ago. I have a really sore neck today too so I’m a touch on the crabby side.
I have been working a lot lately, and the blog suffers from it. I have to build a new blog schedule, as I do have a few others I contribute to for work. I feel like I’m writing all day long sometimes.
I just wanted to pop in and announce that I’m still alive. I have to go bother Meg as well. I never did figure out how to get to Solaris’ blog and I would love to see what is going on with her now that her HusbandsWhore (yes all one word) can’t come in and harrass her.
I will attempt to get back in here today.
:)
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